How to flirt at a gay bar

You spot a cute guy across the crowded dancefloor, lock eyes, and go over to introduce yourself, but you freeze! If this sounds like you — you might need some flirting tips. None of us are getting any younger. Approaching a guy in a gay bar can be intimidating, but the absolute worst he can do is turn you down. Offer to buy him a drink or tell him you like his jacket.

His reaction will tell you all you need to know. If he smiles and compliments you back — keep it up! Eye contact is one of the best ways to show interest without saying a word. If they do it more than once, i. Your posture and the way you carry yourself will give off many signals.

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Keeping your posture open shoulders back, chin up, hands by your sides makes you seem approachable and friendly. This also applies to how you carry yourself when you talk to him. A few too many will have you rambling, slurring and reeking of booze, none of which makes for an excellent first impression. While your phone can be a tempting escape from the awkwardness of standing alone, it shuts you off from the rest of the room and makes you seem unapproachable.

Instead, order a drink and look around the room, make eye contact with people and smile as you do. This will make it look like you are having a good time and lets people know you are open to a conversation. Even if you are not interested in a person, if you have the time, be polite and friendly when people come up and say hello.

They might be just as nervous as you are. If you keep your distance or avoid giving him any signals, you risk coming across as completely disinterested rather than just a bit shy. You only get one chance at a first impression, so be polite. Introduce yourself and remember his name when he tells you.

A little humour can help break the ice and keep the conversation moving. Some light-hearted jokes about the venue, the drinks or the music are a great place to start, but make sure you keep it friendly. Talking about yourself for half an hour may be a good way to avoid awkward silences, but it can also make you seem self-absorbed.

Interested people are interesting people. He might be unavailable, nursing a broken heart, catching up with a friend or just not interested in flirting. Whatever the reason, making a nuisance of yourself is not going to convince him. Give him your number or social media handle, or ask for his, so you can get in touch.