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So we seek situations where the probability of meeting someone is higher. We want better odds.

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We juggle multiple possibilities only to readily and callously dismiss those we tire of, perhaps for fear of investing too deeply in one. To be sure, these services have positives. Many younger gays find affirmation of their normality using them, especially in rural areas where they may feel isolated.

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